tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post4607486218312547952..comments2024-03-27T17:28:13.744+01:00Comments on Away From It All: Somebody or Nobody?LisAwayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03299284773832500834noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-5758510415027544352011-05-17T01:49:01.010+02:002011-05-17T01:49:01.010+02:00This scares me. It is this attitude (their's,...This scares me. It is this attitude (their's, not yours, of course) that makes it possible for me to see how the end of civilization can actually come. I have nothing against moms who want to work or do work for whatever reason but I have big problems with mothers who think of children as an accessory to their life as opposed to one of, if not the, greatest undertaking in life.Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-86998001433430206892011-05-12T21:28:06.292+02:002011-05-12T21:28:06.292+02:00I've been away from Bloggyland for too long! I...I've been away from Bloggyland for too long! I love this post! I used to say I was a SAHM, but I was also a massage therapist or budding writer... Then I decided I didn't need to tack that junk on. I am a mom. Deal with it.Andi Kate, Children's Authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06276051519521844931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-25070932802955525362011-05-11T01:05:02.531+02:002011-05-11T01:05:02.531+02:00Lisa, I'm Nathan's mom and I just want to ...Lisa, I'm Nathan's mom and I just want to say that you've written about the attitude that I dealt with when my husband went to Duke (NC) in the 1970's. Other women often tried to make me feel that I was somehow lacking because I didn't work. Each time I went to the doctor's office and filled in "mother" or "homemaker" for my job it would come back "none". Then I said something to the doctor and he really appreciated my comments and respected my choice and he told them to print my job as homemaker and they finally did. When people say, "Oh, you don't work?" I say, "Yes, I do, I just don't get paid!" Years ago, I felt I had to defend my choice, but now, I can say that almost everyone I know respects it, and most of my mother friends (grandmas now), tell me wistfully that they wish they'd made that choice then. I love reading your blog and your honest comments about motherhood, the most wonderful, most important (and probably most difficult)vocation ever.grammawoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07507573665957298928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-8440779772547401472011-04-29T18:28:17.887+02:002011-04-29T18:28:17.887+02:00What a frustrating attitude that most Polish peopl...What a frustrating attitude that most Polish people have. I know it varies culture to culture, but I raise my children, not the village, cause the village has enough idiots in it.<br /><br />Motherhood is my duty, my love, my boredom, my joy, my everything. Lately it is fleeting (Rachel will be "grown up and gone" in 6 years) and I remind myself of that daily.Jenn Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02000134950344758765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-29362329309456250132011-04-29T16:14:35.198+02:002011-04-29T16:14:35.198+02:00i love staying at home with my kids too, and i'...i love staying at home with my kids too, and i'm not even a writer on the side :). i do absolutely nothing on the side! and that's where the true freedom is. what person that works from eight to five can say they can nap anytime they want? or go to lunch anytime they want? or talk on the phone however long they want? or sleep in? or go to a park every time the sun shines? or lay in the backyard enjoying the breeze? or read a good book for 12 hours straight? <br /><br />i don't know about the working women, but i do whatever i choose every single day. a bike ride sounds nice today...Sylwiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16367764109444733995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-2739470785781463812011-04-27T20:34:50.025+02:002011-04-27T20:34:50.025+02:00It makes me so sad that so many women in this worl...It makes me so sad that so many women in this world will never experience how wonderful motherhood is. <br /><br />I'm glad the one Feminist really gets it! And I'm glad you get it. And I'm glad you share it with others, so maybe they'll get it, too.Lara Neveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08351324888724799014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-71539101454419435202011-04-26T18:54:18.062+02:002011-04-26T18:54:18.062+02:00Lisa, this is so EXCELLENT!!! Thank you!
I'm...Lisa, this is so EXCELLENT!!! Thank you! <br /><br />I'm a stay at home mom of five kids. I had considered going back to work when the youngest went to school, but realized that my older kids needed me home more than the younger ones. <br /><br />I love being a mom, and feel like it is the most important job in the world. <br /><br />I just want to give you a hug. ((hug)) =DCarolyn Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03780443388339294502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-69209066224648710642011-04-26T01:07:11.629+02:002011-04-26T01:07:11.629+02:00I LOVE the Actual Feminist's comment. And I a...I LOVE the Actual Feminist's comment. And I agree with you. Being a Mom is the best (and most important) occupation of all!Loralee and the gang...https://www.blogger.com/profile/07203655646949305050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-16584985087690850022011-04-21T23:13:56.450+02:002011-04-21T23:13:56.450+02:00Yay! What a great post. That is exactly why I CH...Yay! What a great post. That is exactly why I CHOOSE to stay at home with my children. Yes, I have a degree. Yes, I have a high IQ. AND, I WANT to be home with my children to teach them everything I want/need to. <br /><br />Yes, I feel very passionately about this discussion, if you can't tell :)<br /><br />(And I said I have a high IQ, and in this very moment, I don't know if I used the word "passionately" correctly. Sigh.)Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16913479841360204974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-68485900406224210592011-04-21T11:59:22.749+02:002011-04-21T11:59:22.749+02:00Loved this and reminds me of that fantastic poem -...Loved this and reminds me of that fantastic poem - The Hand that Rocks the Cradle Rocks the World. You are doing the hardest, most worthwhile work and if you haven't read Jane Clayson Johnson's "I Am A Mother", you'd love it! I too am grateful for the blogging community of mothers that find joy and share challenges of this most meaningful endeavor. I'm reading President Monson's biography and at the very beginning, he is quoted as saying "I firmly believe that the sweetest experience in mortality is to know that our Heavenly Father has worked through us to accomplish an objective in the life of another person -- to help make someone whole." We're the lucky ones, aren't we! I just have to be reminded often ;)TracieCarterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17758771344011341144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-56326789928390462722011-04-20T16:31:10.296+02:002011-04-20T16:31:10.296+02:00I think your definition of a feminist is what a lo...I think your definition of a feminist is what a lot of women think. Nice to be understood by at least one woman. Wow!Kazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04411131948607000725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-45918292575824438282011-04-19T18:23:37.924+02:002011-04-19T18:23:37.924+02:00I love your last statement. Can I quote you? I am ...I love your last statement. Can I quote you? I am SO GRATEFUL I get to stay home with my kids (because I have always hated working!) Not that staying home isn't working! And I do plenty of complaining about my kids. I just didn't like the work environments I was in before getting to stay home. Being a mother is the HARDEST JOB on the planet, but absolutely the most important!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17162550253703038825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-8392172040748851522011-04-19T12:41:59.621+02:002011-04-19T12:41:59.621+02:00Yeah, this occupation is not connected with much p...Yeah, this occupation is not connected with much prestige nowadays. Thank you for sharing your experiences.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06537617288115129539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-66609027189500554452011-04-19T08:39:58.979+02:002011-04-19T08:39:58.979+02:00I saw the same attitude when I lived in Germany. N...I saw the same attitude when I lived in Germany. Not that you don't see it in America, but it's so widespread there. It IS sad...You're definitely "somebody."Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14775357852517545722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-14223643083074498222011-04-19T06:05:42.975+02:002011-04-19T06:05:42.975+02:00I totally love this today. Even here, there are m...I totally love this today. Even here, there are many people who think you are less if you stay home. I think you are totally amazing and I admire you being able to stick to your principles. It might not seem important now, but in the eternal scheme of things, it is the most important job ever!!Pitterle Postingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02944899733768126383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-40951847014592733432011-04-19T03:15:03.504+02:002011-04-19T03:15:03.504+02:00We were stationed in Europe for 8 years, 4 at a NA...We were stationed in Europe for 8 years, 4 at a NATO base in Belgium. There were families from 17 countries. Many of the American women were stay-at-home moms. There was an attitude from some that the American women were spoiled and lazy. Even at church there were sometimes comments like "It must be nice to stay home and do nothing all day."Ro Jeanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987957661555552852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-39605537641114316502011-04-19T02:48:37.833+02:002011-04-19T02:48:37.833+02:00You are so good at reminding me how I thought I wo...You are so good at reminding me how I thought I would be as a mom :) But you know, when I imagined spring break and taking my kids to parks and stuff, I just never envisioned the brown-eyed boy who would be fussing and whining the entire time about going home...<br />I love MelancholySmile's comment. <br />I think it's interesting to know this about Polish culture, I didn't realize it before. Now I understand why my friend here is still looking into jobs that would start just a few months after her twin girls are born...Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09966076533635667017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-56720546785793023632011-04-19T02:03:54.864+02:002011-04-19T02:03:54.864+02:00Good grief! That's all I can think of saying! ...Good grief! That's all I can think of saying! I wish I didn't have to work outside the home, but I'm lucky I work at a school where I have the same hours as my kids. It's important to be there for the first five years minimum, IMO, and during the teen years for sure!Lesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08062439478458703873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-58267071916608542722011-04-18T20:21:56.123+02:002011-04-18T20:21:56.123+02:00What a sad thing!
After spending quite a lot of t...What a sad thing!<br /><br />After spending quite a lot of time with therapists and counselors, J and I have discussed how ironic it is that our culture is so willing to blame all kinds of problems and behaviors on one's parents-- yet are so unwilling to place any value on properly parenting their own children! The convolutedness of it all reminds me of the scripture that says light shall be called darkness, and darkness shall be called light.<br /><br />I'm just grateful for the advent of internet and blogging, which allows like-minded stay-at-home mothers support one another no matter where we live. :)MelancholySmilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04111279059498208927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-66509625832399047562011-04-18T19:20:43.655+02:002011-04-18T19:20:43.655+02:00I'm grateful there are so many women like you ...I'm grateful there are so many women like you who feel the way you do, and that there are other women who believe women can do whatever they want---be it a stay-at-home mom or a doctor. As long as there are some of us that feel that way I think we'll be okay!Barbaloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01541675474218507411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-7212322762479075772011-04-18T18:20:45.991+02:002011-04-18T18:20:45.991+02:00Yay. And yes. :)Yay. And yes. :)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11486223394459963669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4869329841369921947.post-68241596312591906392011-04-18T17:48:06.704+02:002011-04-18T17:48:06.704+02:00Wow, Lisa, it would be difficult to be around this...Wow, Lisa, it would be difficult to be around this attitude about stay at home mothering, when we believe it is so important. I am glad that you can have the church and friends (and wonderful husband, of course) that support you in this monumental decision!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703184435092557675noreply@blogger.com